mindfulness

Bob Dylan is complaining in his song "Not Dark Yet". According to Buddhism he is right. We are doomed to be unsatisfied because of the ever changing world. Clinging to things and persons and the endless craving makes this. Mindfulness cannot stop the clinging and craving, but it can make us aware of it. Religious people often looks for salvation. In traditional  Buddhism Nirvana stands for this salvation. Thich Nhat Hanhs interpretation of  Buddha's words is that Nirvana is in the here and now. We don´t have to look for it in the future. That makes no salvation but is probably more true to reality. But it makes the suffering more easy to bear. You cannot avoid to be hurt, but you don't have to make it worse by thoughts and feelings of bitterness. You can make some space around the feelings and thoughts, you can let them come and go and understand that they are just a part of you. New feelings, new thoughts will come. I think Dylan's lamenta

Bronnie Ware helped dying people for many years. Here's what they regretted the most: 1.  I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.  This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.  It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it. 2.  I wish I didn't work so hard.   This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female pati