To take care of sadness

It's important not to let sadness overwhelm you. Perhaps you can take care of yourself sadness as of  a forsaken child. Perhaps you have to show the child the good sides of life. If your child is sad it's best to not show him or her to much drama. What do you read in the newspapers? What do you look at tv? Is this really things you want show a forsaken child? Is this things that will nurture your own feelings?
But don't be afraid of the sad child. Just take care of it. Remember that your suffering is the mud that a beautiful flower can grow in. Without the mud no flower grows.

And you have to grow, so you can take care of your suffering. Those of us that cannot will try to drown our sorrows in alcohol or other drugs, like too much sandwiches ;~}If we do that we sure will, in the end, be overwhelmed by our sorrow. We will build a mental prison for ourselves.


Thich Nath Hanh puts it this way; "We can stop at all time and become aware of the child within us. When we recognize the wounded child for the first time, all we need to do is be aware of him or her and say hello.
That's all. Perhaps this child is sad. If we notice this we can just breath in and say to ourselves, 'Breathing in , I know that my sorrow has manifested in me. Hello, my sorrow. Breathing out, I will take good care of you.'"

Another way is to remember and appreciate all the small wonders of life. A wonderful butterfly, a smile from a stranger, a swimming beaver in he sunset or just the wind in your face when you are going by bicycle. 

 

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